independence

My mother always wanted me to become independent. For example, get my college fees done, drove to school, drove to wherever without her fetching, had my bank account done, called and spoke to them directly, she wouldn't be helping. Not to mention my evil brother that would only encourage and stand on my mother's side.

Actually, independence is some sort of ability of self-dependency. So, if you are independent and would you go shopping alone, studying alone, eating alone?
Why should i become independent when i have peoples to rely on? I am the youngest among the family. They would help me, i believed. Also, there are good friends out there that would probably offer their help.

Too independent - people will think that you are un-socialized and you will get hatred and discriminated.
Of course, no one asks you to be too dependent . You should be able to handle stuff like washing dishes, taking care yourself and etc etc.

When it comes to things that u wouldn't be able to handle properly among yourself such as stress, relationship problems, friendships, arguments etc etc then you should have some consultation from either friends or family members. Why should you keep it to yourself and cry under your pillow. And when mom knocked the door, u said nothing had happened?
Alright, maybe parents would never understand the feelings, but we do have friends, don't we? they are willing to be our listen ears. they would console us when they knew the stories.

So in conclusion, friends and families are important, independence isn't a necessity. 
Stop crying to yourself and simply hug your dead bolster, it wouldn't make u feel better. Talk to living things, at least they would give some response, of course!.